I remember thinking that he was such an easy infant and toddler. He's such a smart kid that I think a lot of the frustration a lot of kids have at a young age, he didn't because he could communicate effectively. Gwen is the same way, however I think she gets more frustrated than Trevor did because she is not the only one that wants my attention.
Anyway, I have known that Trevor has been testing his limits both at home and at school, and I've heard that it is pretty bad for first born boys. That now is there more difficult time, whereas with girls, it is when they are teenagers. Anyway, I think he has slightly settled down with his regular kindergarten teacher, however he's now acting up whenever a substitute is in his class. This week was pretty difficult at home and at school, where he was pretty argumentative and doing things he "knows better" to not do. And it's always been a struggle to stay on top of what will motivate him to stop doing the bad behavior.
He's tried a lot of techniques as to explaining why he does things. And knows that when he answers a "Why?" question with "Because that is what I chose to do." He knows there isn't anything else we can really say. And really, this behavior, it could be much worse.
His childhood is one that has promoted his self-esteem and he has so much confidence in his ability that I think that is what is going to be hard to change his behavior, yet keep his useful confidence. His uncles, while being 20 years older than him (or so) play with him and have such a great time. I'm pretty sure he looks at them and thinks they are his friends. It is such a unique situation. He is a first born, boy, and first grandchild on both sides. So he is used to so much attention and so much praise, that it is hard to teach him that even if you know what you are doing, you need to respect other people.
From what I hear, he doesn't have any problems with his peers. He doesn't ever try to overpower them either physically or with mind games.
Arrgh....you know it's a frustrating time, when as a parent all you want your child to do is make the good decisions. But that while that might happen some of the time, it is not going to happen all of the time, and that it's hard to let go and not be a hovering parent. Just frustrating.
Vent over....hopefully soon this will be a distant memory.
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